HOW TO CARE LESS ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE SAY

    Caring what people say has turned out to be the most torturing prison for our century. People are so much scared of letting their wings out because they are worried the world around them won't like it.
 I feel like people's opinions should never shadow they way you feel about something or the way you want to act or respond. Believe in yourself and understand that you can make a perfect decision on your own. It's absolutely OK to need or ask for advice but you can still trust yourself to do something that won't hurt you or anyone.
Made a few reminders to ensure that you don't care so much about what they say;

    1.Stop seeking people's opinions.

Limit the times you ask these questions; 'What do you think?' 'What should I do?' Is this right?' and all the similar ones because believe it or not these people are going to tell you what they think from there own perspective. If you already feel smart in an outfit don't  go around asking people what they think, you were sure when picking it and when you looked at yourself in the mirror you were fire. Make choices basing on your comfort,desires and needs. Stop seeking validation and permission all the time because on a lot of occasions people will make you feel wrong and confused about your choices if when you are right.

    2.Understand the hate.

Look here darling, people come up with the negative comments and opinions about you base they know you won't like them and they know this will out you down somehow, we only human, we break sometimes. We got to understand thou that we can't erase the hate, hateful people are going to be around us throwing their negativety all over because they are scared of our success, because we are finessing and its not yet their time or they are just too blind to notice the good they have. All you have to do is not to give their heartbreaking opinions a chance to break your fabulousness.

    3.Have your filters

Now this is important because the more you discover and understand people's places in your life, the merrier. Its OK to have a very short friend list if you are sure these are your genuine beings. Know the people who work for you, those who hype you up, who build you because these people want to see you win, they are so OK when you thrive. And in the other side eliminate those who always bring you down, there the ones with the nasty comments, they will always compliment you with a 'but', am sure these should go with the wind.

  4.No one has it all together.

People are going to be all up in your business wanting you to be perfect which is absolutely impossible. They are simply trying to fit you in there own image of you. One wanted you to have a boy and the other wished you had twins, they are bothered about your career, your education, your home etc I mean you can't meet all there needs and expectations about you so don't be bothered by what they say. These judgemental people have issues too, there struggling with a lot so don't be  fooled by their fake perfections.

  5.They don't know you 

Alright I understand  people can be provocative and stuff, they will do anything to push  you out, to get a response from you and this can be tormenting but don't  fall prey. They will say this and that, they will twist the truth and plant too many lies but am telling you they ain't got enough details and information about you. They don't know your struggles, accomplishments, talents and so much more so don't let there false accusations, unpleasant comments and nasty opinions plant in the ugly seeds in you.

 You are beautiful and so much wise and I trust you can make great decisions in accordance to your life.

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